Vol.44 Question #1 & 2: The Love & The Fear 

The first two questions I ask every new client are:

#1: What do you love about drinking?
#2: What are you afraid of about not drinking—or not being able to drink as much as you want?

I know—it sounds backward.

People assume my job as a sobriety guide is to talk about the 99 reasons not to drink, not to invite you to explore your love for alcohol or your fear of giving it up.

But here’s the thing:
Whether we name it or not, you’re here because there’s something you genuinely like about drinking.

Not talking about it doesn’t make it go away.
In fact, when we push down what feels true, it only keeps us stuck longer.

Many people worry that if they talk about what they love about drinking, it’ll make them want to drink more.
But the opposite is true.

Only when we’re honest about all sides of our experience—what we love and what we fear—can we begin to understand our relationship with alcohol and start to shift it.

Because most of us don’t drink just because we love alcohol.
We drink because we’re afraid of what life might feel like without it.

For many people, alcohol serves a purpose—it helps us relax after a long day, feel more at ease in social settings, or manage stress and other hard emotions.

That’s why “just quit” rarely feels like a real solution.

To someone on the outside, it might look simple.

But for the person drinking, it’s terrifying to imagine losing the one thing that’s been helping them cope.

That’s why these first two questions are so important:
They open the door to understanding—not judgment.

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👉 Here’s my “love list” and “fear list” from when I first started exploring my own relationship with alcohol.

And if you hit reply and share yours, I’ll personally write back.